For Therapists
Chemsex & Couples Therapy
“We used to enjoy chemsex together. Now I want to stop, and he doesn’t.”
About this video
What happens when chemsex starts affecting your relationship and you and your partner want different things? I’m Justin Duwe, a couples therapist, psychotherapist, sexologist and author of The Truth About Chemsex. In this video, I explain what specialist couples counselling can look like when chemsex is affecting trust, intimacy or the agreements you’ve made together.
I talk about:
- What to do when you’re worried about your partner’s chemsex use, or your own - How to talk when one of you wants to cut back or stop - Setting boundaries and discussing consent in open relationships and kink - What rebuilding trust can involve after secrecy or broken agreements - How to begin talking about sex and intimacy without chems
You can start the conversation even if you disagree about whether chemsex is a problem. A starting point is to ask, “What’s happening between us, and how is it affecting each of us?”
Not sure where you stand? Take the free Chemsex Reality Check.


